Abstinence means different things to different people. For a man and a woman who are considering sexual activity which can lead to pregnancy, abstinence refers to not having penis-in-vagina intercourse. For protection against infection, abstinence means avoiding vaginal, anal, and oral-genital intercourse or participating in any other activity in which body fluids (semen, vaginal fluids, blood, and breast milk) are exchanged with another person. On this page abstinence refers primarily to not having vaginal intercourse - where the penis enters the vagina. Some people will use other kinds of touching to satisfy their needs. Others will avoid any kind of touching because it is too tempting.The decision to have sex is your decision, each and every time.